You deserve it.

We may feel things did not work out the way we want them to, so what can we do about it? 

We may feel things are not the same as it used to be, so what are we gonna do?
We may feel that it was all our mistake that things did not turn right. So do you want to keep on blaming yourself or move on?

Sometimes, we try so hard to make people around us to be happy, to feel comfortable while being around us, to feel they are loved, but at the same time we do not realize that we are putting too much effort and ends up hurting ourselves. We may feel that it is the best thing that we can do to other people, yet we need to accept the truth that we also need to give ourselves a little break…from trying to make everyone happy cause the fact, we won’t able to do that.

So, what’s the best thing we can do to ourselves and other people?

Firstly, let’s respect ourselves and accept who we truly are. It does not mean that we accept all the flaws and do nothing about that, but it means there is a sense of worth by treating ourselves better and do something about the flaws. I believe that, when we feel we are worthy, have a willingness to change into a better, we will definitely know how to make people feel that way as well.

Secondly, we may need to accept the fact that we can’t keep everything good or perfect. Even when we buy 5 kg of apples, there might be two or three apples that are rotten, as well as in our lives. We may feel that we can keep everything in a good track, the way we want them to, but yeah..let’s face the ugly truth. Stop trying if you still expect things will turn out like what we hope to.

Thirdly, let’s do what we need to do, what’s actually the right things that need to be done, instead of doing what people think that we must do. DO OUR PART WISELY and do not think so much about what other people will talk about us, ignore the negatives.

What I believe in this life is that things that look good does not mean it will be right, things that right might not be looking good in the present, but it will definitely be right at the end of the time. People who really treasure you, will always be there for you no matter how many times you two arguing or clash with one another. Keep those people in your life and always love them. 
Hey, wake up, we are not perfect, we are only human, we have limitations, but we can make people happy by being who we truly are, by doing the right things. Cheers! 

DO THE RIGHT THINGS AND LIVE HAPPILY! J

Welcome to the family

Let me introduce you my new "family"
freshly from Cameron Highland <3 :)

"Well, we're both fruit"

“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”
Do you agree with it?

Why do some people think that way?
What makes they think that other people are better than them?
What makes they think…..
“Why am I not kind enough?”
“Why am I not like them?”
“Why do I never be enough for him/her?”
“Why they seem do not have any problem like me?”
“Why their life seems more meaningful than mine?”
“Why they always get everything they wanted, but I am not?”

How come those questions cross someone’s mind, or our mind? Don’t we ever think that way? Comparing our life with other people? Why do we even think about that?

I believe that each one of us in this world has their own capabilities, skills, uniqueness, something to be proud of, our own way of thinking, our own ups-downs in life.  So, why do we want to be like someone else or feel jealous with their life instead to be grateful with our life?

If we are still doing on the same things, following the same track on comparing our life with people around us, it won’t bring us any further or one step ahead them, but we will only stuck in the same situation as we are today, nothing much will change into the better one, people that we compared with will always seems much better than us and we will always struggle with this problem all over again. Don’t you want to avoid these to happen?

YES, I want to avoid it.

Let’s change the wrong-mind-set, be thankful for every situation you are into right now, STOP comparing and START to live a positive life with a positive mind-set today! :) <3 

 

 

Choices.

Let’s say that you are the “owner” of your own self and your mind. No one owns it unless you let them to take control of it. You can give command to yourself to be angry, sad, disappointed, mad or happy. It’s under your own control.

Sometimes, when the situation is not right, the surrounding does not seems cooperating with us, world’s against us…close your eyes for a while, hold your breath, don’t say a word, calm yourself down and take control of yourself. The responses that you want to give at the moment might not be the right one. Or else, you might prefer to complain, grumble or even be angry to the situation and feel disappointed towards a person instead. It depends on what responses you prefer to give; right one or wrong one. 

Only you that know yourself better, even better than your family or closest friends. You may not want to regret or hating yourself for the things you’ve done or decision you make at that moment. Well, people make mistake, you are given with three options: keep doing the same mistakes, do nothing about it or learn from it. Life is fair, make sure you choose the right choice.

Remember this:
There's no bad day only a bad response.
Be wise ;)

Courage.

Could we just find some "cool" invention to keep people we love to always stay close with us, like there would not be things changed or no feelings would fade away? Would it be awesome or maybe just become one of the most selfish invention that ever be created? People come and people go, the ugliest part of it is “what if” we love that person so much ‘till we cannot accept the truth that they need to leave us behind, to live our life in different path, to do things alone when we are supposed to do it with them? Are we strong enough to let it go?

As we are getting more mature, we might find it a little bit easier to let go, to allow people we love to grow in another area they preferred, to live their life without us taking so much contribution in it as it used to be, to be with someone they love, to be with anyone except “us”. Why? Because we love them more than we love ourselves and we found out that life once we shared together and memories we had are far more valuable than our ego.

Well, how ‘bout if we put ourselves as the people who need to leave the person we love? Is it as hard as being the one who let go? Do you have any reasons to give?

     The immature part of me would love if there’s whatsoever cool invention created to keep things and feelings unchanged, always stay as like it used to be: no matter where they go, who they talk with every day, things will remain the same. But, my “don’t know how mature” part of me believe that life goes on, people need to go out from their comfort zones to reach their own real dreams; those comfort zones could be: too-often-time talking non-sense, overloaded jokes in a day, too-much money spent to chill out, too-many playing around…..with us. 

          Sometimes, people need a break to think, to find that missing pieces in their heart, to do what they should’ve been doing for long time ago. As a person that love and be loved by them, least that we can give to them are time, support, encouragement, and “it’s okay, you are doing your best and you got my back, anytime” to show them that you aren’t being selfish, to prove them that you care and treasure the relationship. 

          So, here are my little encouragement to all of us: do not be afraid of losing someone important in your life, cause you will not really lose them if they mean the world to you; when you feel they are changing, they do not really change but they just grew up without doing the same things that they’ve been doing all this time with you; do not let all negative thoughts control your mind and destroy all the good memories with that person, whom you love so much. 

          Trust me, you are strong enough to accept the truth, truth to walk in different path to be a better them and you. Lastly, you won’t ask for that cool invention to be created cause you, yourself are more powerful than that. :) 

"People change. Feelings change. It doesn't mean that the love once shared wasn't true and real. It simply means that sometimes when people grow, they grow apart." - (500) Days of Summer 

My version of happiness.

For me, being happy is an option. You, yourself got the right to choose to be happy or not happy. That’s it.

First, just let me share to you my own recipe of happiness..

1.  When I have a chance to open my eyes and to breathe in the morning, I will thank God for it.

2.  Make plans to get things done.

3.  Dress well.

4.  Live healthy: get myself a breakfast, lunch and dinner (yeah, at least), do some sports, drink fruit juices, drink lemon water and get enough sleep.

5.  Catch up with some friends: tell jokes, do some quality talk and being crazy together.

6.  Buy myself RM1 Wall’s Rainbow Ice Cream. (if only consuming ice cream would keep me healthy, I’d eat it every day).

7.  Be a super annoying best-friend (it feels good, sometimes).

8.  Talk all night long with my fams & close friends (I’d like to do it every night if it’s possible).

9.  Listen to my favourite songs.

10.  Read books and quotes that motivate me.

11.  Set a positive mind.

12.  Open-up to someone, trust people & be empathy.

13.  Be MELself, don’t change for anyone but change for the better. :)

Everyone in this world deserves to feel their own happiness, to make their own version of it. As what I believe in this life, no matter what situation you are currently in, how much money you have in your pocket, who are your family and friends, but as long as you are thankful of all that you have right now, you will be happy. It might sound a bit naïve, or we might just want to say that “life is not that simple”. Well, I know right, but what I believe is if we are being easy to ourselves, life is being easy to us too, so why do we complicate life? Start to create your own version of happiness and be HAPPY instead :)